According to Webster's Dictionary a “myth” is a fiction, a phenomenon, a half-truth. A myth is useful to historians principally for what it reveals of the culture of the people it describes or significant truths about human life or human nature. Webster's cites the myth of the alienated man and goes on to define phenomenon as an imaginary or fictitious story. A collective opinion, belief or ideal based on false promises or is the product of fallacious reasoning. A parable used to explain or illustrate a philosophic concept such as the dialogues of Plato, the greek philosopher.
Webster's defines phenomenon as something visible or directly observable as an appearance, action, unusual occurrence, inexplicable fact, any not characteristic or disease. So is it a myth or phenomenon that “Black people do not go to the doctor?
I can say there is some truth in it. Why? Because I am black and I do not like going to the doctor, anything to avoid going and only when necessary. As I think back maybe it stems from my very first visit to the doctor as a child. The man in the white coat that saw me in the room in my mother's absence was nothing like the qualified doctor he described in her presence. She welcomed his advice.
Years passed and consciously forgot about that experience, but the subconscious never forgets. Over the years I have taken great pride in selecting a doctor that I trust first and foremost as a person. What I know is that the qualities you develop as a person carry over into your profession or any other role you play, whether parent, teacher, doctor, lawyer or politician.
Some years ago I needed some glasses and went to a business where I had met one of its owners. She was an adoring woman and was knowledgable about her field. I connected with her genuineness. Her charisma made her great in sales. I felt happy to give my business to someone I admire as a person. When it was time to reorder my glasses I paid her a visit. She spent as much time as necessary to help me select the proper glasses with all the bells and whistles, transition prescription, anti-glare, ultraviolet protective sun glasses and I spent a lot of money. It took a week or so for the glasses to be delivered.
When I returned to pick up the glasses. Another person came out to help me. When I first looked into his eyes a strong sense inside of me said, “He can not be trusted.” That was before she introduced him as her husband, a former eye doctor.
I should have listened to that inner voice but her charming smile made me disregard what something within me warned. If you order something and you pay for it, how can you say, I do not trust the person behind the counter?
After wearing the glasses I began to sense something wrong with my eyesight but continued to wear the stylish glasses. I was in vogue receiving compliments daily about my glasses. Sometimes, that inner voice aligned with my acceptance that something was wrong with the glasses.
Knowing that something was wrong I took the glasses back to complain. He laughed and sarcastically implied that maybe it was not the glasses, maybe it was me. I left wearing his sarcasm and the same glasses. But, the longer I loved them the more frustration I experienced and the more I knew that something was indeed wrong. My eyesight bigger worse and my annoyance bigger bigger until ever I went to another place and bought another pair. When I went back and he saw the “cheap” glasses I wore he offered to look out the glasses I ordered from him.
“I must have made a mistake,” he said after examining the glasses I had pulled from my purse. That same inner voice that warned me earlier said, “It was not a mistake.”
If you can not trust the professionals you pay for quality service, who can you trust? You can no longer rely on “people-in-the-know” to tell you when it is not safe to board a plane or train. You must learn to trust your inner guidance, your inner knowing.